The secret to my success with IBS, over the past few years, lies in changing my approach to food, fitness, relaxation, and hydration. If I could go back in time, to advise to myself at the height of my agony, I’d say, “The key to changing your life is meticulously collecting data and planning ahead.”
We have more willpower available to us when we are motivated and determined. We are more committed when what we’re striving for is tied to our ideal identity, who we would like our future self to be. It’s important to ask whether our goals are actually ours. At times, we get caught up in what we feel we “should” want, or what others want for us.
Assertiveness is a mindset, that is demonstrated through our behavior. It is also a skill, that can be learned, practiced, and improved upon. It is not about “getting what you want”, it’s about having your desires be a part of the conversation, alongside of and as valued as anyone else’s.